Valentine's Day Survey...

1.) What is the one thing you love about your spouse the most?
2.) Do you and your spouse have a special song? What is it?
3.) Do you remember the moment that you realized you were in love with your spouse?

--submitted by Katie 1/28/06
email your answers to: katie@rositaverdita.com

 

Judy:
1.) What I love about Kenny?  That he is always kind and giving to everyone.  I admire that.
2.) Kenny and I have a few songs.  The one that sticks out the most. Maybe because Kenny sings it daily is "Not just a black man."
3.) The very first night that Kenny and I met, I knew that he was the one.  It was pretty instant. We have never been apart since.


Sean:
1.) Can't name just one thing, but here's a few: Her unconditional love, her honesty and sincerity, her skills, and her ability to keep an open mind about life.
2.) "Loving You" by Minnie Ripperton
3.) One of the first half dozen times I watched her perform on stage... Forget which one, but one of those.

Katie:
1.) His tenderness and gentleness. I know that he would NEVER intentionally do anything to hurt me.
2.) He always sings, "loving you....is easy when you're (fill in the blank-whatever I'm doing at the moment)" when I'm in the room, and "Take my breath Away"
3.) It was when we were dating. He was giving me a haircut, and as I was looking at him in the mirror, I noticed that he was being so careful and precise. It was then that I knew I had fallen in love.

Susan:
1.) The thing that I have always loved the most about my husband is that he is a nurturer. He loves to take care of people - even if it inconveniences him. Over the years I have watched him love and take care of so many people - some of my relatives, people in the Church, our children, random people and me.
2.) Our special song has always been "More". We even had it played throughout our wedding reception. Whenever I hear it, I think of our dating and getting married. It is very romantic.
3.) I knew I was in love with Dad on New Years Eve 1963. I was 19 and Dad was 21. We had been dating for about a month. We went to a restaurant in the city with Uncle Richie and Aunt Lila. They had noisemakers and hats to celebrate the new year. Dad put a black derby hat on and when I looked at him, I knew I was in love. I loved his cute Irish face with that hat on. We had a wonderful time that night and we wrote our names on the paper tablecloth. Dad wrote "Susan Condon" and I wrote "Mrs. James Condon". We decided that night that we were going to get married.
Amy:
1. I love that David loves me so well. He shows me everyday how much I am wanted and needed. I love that he loves the word of God so much and tries to live up to its standard even when things get hard.
2. He has written some pretty great songs about me so I would have to say any of those. I would also have to say 'Try a little tenderness" because whenever I hear it I always think of him.
3. I was a hard nut to crack when it came to falling in love. We only saw each other one time in 4 months so most of our "courting" was over the phone. When I finally saw him at Christmas I just knew he was the one. I had never been loved by someone so much. I asked him to marry me on his birthday of that year (after 5 months of knowing each other). (By the by, he said yes)

Sarah:
1.) I love that Blair is a dreamer, that he wears his heart on his sleeve, that he loves God, that he loves to talk, and he will tell me how much he loves me 20 times a day.
2.) We have so many but a big one was "The Luckiest" by Ben Folds.
3.) I remember Caryn telling me on the phone when I was a junior in high school that she knew this guy named Blair and that she could totally picture me liking him. And when I went to visit her that summer, I went to church with her on a Wed. night and in the auditorium I met him and he put his hand out and told me his name was Blair Bisher. That night I went home and wrote "Sarah Visher" all over Jessica's magnadoodle because I thought he said "Visher". I loved him immediately and never stopped.

Blair:
1. The thing I love about Sarah the most is that she has so much love to give. She is incredibly loyal, and fights for our relationship. I always feel like a priority, never leftovers. She is WICKED funny, as well... she makes me laugh so hard... AND SHE'S GORGEOUS!!!!
2. The Luckiest, by Ben Folds
3. The 1st night I saw her I was knocked on my rear... in the auditorium at church, on a Wednesday night, I couldn't believe my eyes. I knew that I was going to spend the rest of my life with her... and I'm grateful I was right!!

Wannabe:
1) Jeff is typically very unemotional, but one of the things I love most about him is how emotionally involved he is with me. Everytime I cry, even in situations that don't involve him, he cries too because when I'm hurting he's hurting. He also makes me laugh like nobody else. And I also love that everyday he makes a point to tell me he loves me and he can't wait to spend the rest of his life with me.
2) We don't really have one particular song. The song that probably holds the most memories for the both of us Neil Diamond's "Sweet Caroline" because one of our first dates and many following were to Red Sox games.
3) Yes I do! We were driving to Nantucket to meet up with some friends for a weekend. At some point in the car, I remember just staring at him and thinking, I'm going to marry him. This was a week before I was set to move to Chicago. I never left because I knew I was in love with him.
Ken:
1) One thing I love about Judy is the way she takes care of our kids. She loves and adores them and is so very protective of them. To that, I thank you Judy for being there always for our children!
2) Although I love the "Not Just a Black Man" song, my song I always think of is "She's My Brown Eyed Girl".
3) Love at first site. When I gave her the come over here signal with my pointing finger and saw her walking towards me.....(I really really loved that moment), she had this big smile with this gleam in her brown eyes.....I just knew that she was the one for me! Honey, I love you so much... Hey, you want to go to the Caymans for Valentines Day?

Brian:
1. She's a looker, for sure, but most of all I love the way she loves. Always have. For nearly 18 years now I've seen her bring warmth, love and laughter to countless people. She refreshes my heart every day- I'd be a grinch and a grouch without her!
2. A friend wrote a song for our wedding called "Storybook Romance." Some of you may remember he performed it at our rehearsal dinner. That was special.
3. On our first date, a sunset harbor cruise, we talked on for hours. She was open, real, funny, witty, spiritually focused, warm and wonderful. I thought it was magical. Later I found out she hadn't fallen under the same spell... not yet.

David:
1. The one thing I love most about Amy is her heart. She truly doesn't have a mean bone in her body. She can find the good in anyone, even me. She has a love for God that often makes me jealous. And to see her with our kids. She's just more than I could ever have asked for. God knew what he was doing when he made her.
2. There are several - "Shadows of the Moon" I wrote the night I met her, "On the Way to You" is my favorite song I wrote about her, but "I Will Survive" will always make me think of her early days as a karaoke Queen.
3. The first night I talked to her on the phone, we talked for about 3 hours. She told me she was eating quiche and drinking wine for dinner. I thought this is one classy broad. (Later I found out it was boxed wine and those little microwave quiches that you stick in the microwave.) She made me laugh so much in that conversation, I felt like I had always known her. When I hung up the phone I knew I could spend the rest of my life talking to her. (little did I know I would spend the majority of that time listening, because she likes talking more than I do.)
Caryn:
1)I love Brian's heart- his love, his support and integrity. It's cute when he cries. I also love his arms.
2)See Brian's
3)We spent a lot of time together in the summer of '89- playing Ultimate Frisbee, hanging out at Harvard Square, etc. It was during that summer that something sparked. Things had to get resparked the next Spring though. Brian broke his ankle and long story short- I thought he liked someone else and that I had lost my best friend. I cried for 3 hours one night and it was then that I knew he was The One. Luckily he already knew.

Jim, Jr:
1.) Tina - what do I love about her the most? I love her heart - she thinks, feels and loves deeply, she's passionate and she loves God. She's an open
book - she is never about pretense. If she feels it - she expresses it. If she messes up - she doesn't hesitate to tell the world. Any where she goes - she lights up the room. She draws people to her. She thrives on stage - but she won't use her amazing voice to sing a song unless she's "feelin' it". She knows me so well - and she still loves me anyway (wow). She's also gorgeous - it's always awesome when everyone thinks my 41 year old wife is still in her 20's and young Marines half her age try to ask her out to their Marine ball. I am constantly reminded by others about how lucky I am to have such a beautiful wife - and I am.
2.) A special song? There are too many songs - from "Unchained Melody" to "Live Forever" by the Reach to any number of Toby Keith songs (I discovered I actually CAN dance - as long as it's country music). Our relationship has been like a movie soundtrack.
3.) When did I realize I was in love with Tina? We dated a few times before I moved to Nashville and then on to London. When things began to go south in London, I called back to speak with my old roommate in Boston and I asked him about Tina. I let him know that I hadn't been able to forget about Tina - and found out she felt the same about me. This was after us both dating other people and being apart for a year. I moved back to Boston and we met back up at the Greenhouse restaurant in Harvard Square on a rainy day. As soon as I saw her through the window - I had no doubt - I was afflicted and in love. Less than a year later - we were married.

Tina:
1.) There's so many things I love about Jim. I love his hands... the way mine fit so perfectly in his. I love the way he looks at me from across a crowded room. He makes me feel so special. He's passionate about everything he does and everything he believes. I love that. I love that he's a bit of a rebel and has a mischievous streak in him. He makes me laugh. I love how close he is to our children. I respect him and trust him and I'm SO proud of him! I love his heart and spirit and his love for God. He's my hero.
2.) Our "true" song is Unchained Melody.
3.) When Jim came back from London, things happened pretty fast. As soon as I saw him there were strong, undeniable feelings. Soon after was our "first kiss"... I knew then.

Dad:
"Yesterday Jimmy challenged me to write something about Mom for Valentine's Day. He asked "You do love Mom, don't you?" or words to that affect. Here then is my humble attempt.

Yesterday I cried for the first time in 16 years. The last time was the result of watching "Beaches" along with Mom, David, Katie and Sarah. We had just gotten resettled in Nashville after leaving London and the ICC. Emotions were high and we all wept uncontrollably.

Uncontrollable was an apt description of my state last night. Mom tried to ask me why I was crying but I couldn't tell her without crying even more. Now, at 4:30 in the morning I can tell her and you all as well.

Another movie. While Mom was fiddling with the computer, I put on the movie "The First 5 People you Meet in Heaven". At first there was the part where Eddie, the main character, had to watch his father abuse him as a child and then face him in heaven and forgive him. That got me some, but it didn't make me choke up. But it did set the stage.

Next, Eddie was taken back to the night he met his wife. I thought of our first magical night. We weren't even on a date with each other but there was no one in the "Coach House" but Susan. Time went by in flash and now they were in their 50's or 60's and she was dying. At the beginning of the story they show Eddie as an old, sad man one hour before he died. I just couldn't stand the thought of living without my beloved wife at my side. Suddenly I was all choked up.

The fourth person he met in heaven was his wife. They passed from one wedding scene to another. She told Eddie her heaven was watching wedding couples because they each think that their love will be the record breaker of all loves. I thought at that moment "we did break all the records". His wife then takes Eddie to their own wedding reception. She asks him to dance with her and they do. An old man and a beautiful young girl. He asks her "Why am I so old and you look like the day we got married?" She responds: "I thought you would want me this way".

That's when the tears began to flow. Mom has so often said, especially in recent years: "I bet you wish I were young and beautiful. She never believed me when I insisted that she is more beautiful today than she ever was.

As they danced he asked her "Can you make yourself look the way you did at the end?" In a moment she changed and for the first time they kissed.

I was sobbing at this point and thinking how much I loved Susan the day we were married but that was a young love, a love not tested by trials.

I thought of our 41 years together. Of our raising of our six wonderful children. I thought of all the challenges we have faced together. The good times and the bad. I thought "God, I don't want to face the future without Susan at my side".

Then she came into the room and saw me crying and asked me: "Why are you crying?" I couldn't answer then but I can and will now.

Eddie's wife said "I thought you would want me more if I looked like I did when I was young." I was thinking how often Susan thought and said things like that. I wanted Susan to know and believe I loved and thought she was more beautiful today than ever before.

I love the girl I grew up with. The one who believed in me, encouraged me and yes, pushed me to succeed. I love the girl who looked to me as though I was her hero, even when I failed. It was only during those 41 years that we truly became one. So, when we meet in Heaven, Susan, don't look like you did at 20 -- not for me. I love you most just as you are. Sweet dreams my beloved wife, my best friend, my love.

Your faithful husband,
Jim

P.S. To my children: Eddie's final view of Heaven was people. All his life he thought of himself as a failure, stuck in a dead-end job, never escaping the carnival where he was born. In Heaven, he got to meet all the people whose lives he saved simply by keeping the carnival rides safe. He met them and their children and their children's children.

Each one of you will impact others for eternity. If you introduce one person to Jesus, just think of how many others, how many generations of others will greet you in Heaven - grateful that you lived.

Love,
Dad"

 

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